At first I just wanted to wake up from the nightmare that was my life and let out a really huge scream. I didn’t want to eat, I couldn’t sleep. Focus? What was that? Life as I knew it died. And it was an excruciating death. Then, I got perspective – one that positively changed my life forever. Divorce is an OPPORTUNITY! Here are the top 10 reasons I found divorce to be freeing:
- What do I want – how do I get it? This is a question you may not have asked yourself in a while. The possibilities are truly endless and they are in your control. You need a strategy. This is where gaining insight into your finances, a divorce coach, a therapist, and a support group can be invaluable.
- Never before…have you had the ability to truly start again and be who you want to be, be proud of what you become, and thrive in a way you forgot you can. You have been on an emotional roller coaster and it’s not what you want. It’s time to get off!
- Who am I? When you in the divorce process, you wonder “who am I & how did I become who I am”? This is natural. We change so much to make the marriage work that we lose ourselves. Often we are not the person we want to be. Take time to remember who you are, to appreciate the fun loving person you will become again.
- My real friends are… Friends and loved ones are what makes life worth living. Through this process, you will truly learn who your friends are and how wonderful it is to have them in your life. Your relationships will rise to a new level, one that you will ultimately be very grateful for.
- My new friends are… They will seem to come out of the woodwork. Others who have experienced this trying time will be there for support. Many are people you sort of knew and others will be the new blessings you will bring into your life. They will help teach you and guide you to a new and wonderful you.
- Replace the negative void. Divorcees have put in enormous energy and time into the painful ends of their marriage. At this point they can fill it with all the light and positive activity they have ever dreamed of. There is a huge void of time and negative energy to replace – fill it wisely and you WILL be happy.
- Divorce has a tendency to make people withdraw and strain precious friendships. This is an opportunity to really connect and build the friendships that will enhance your life. (See my real friends are…)
- Reconnect (Part duex) Reconnect with yourself. Probably a foreign concept at this point. Be good to yourself, a little self-care goes a long way. What have you missed about yourself? Reinvigorate it. Learn something new – be something new.
- I will love again like never before. At first you may be scared, at times bold, but one thing is for s – you have learned so much about what you want and need. Don’t settle for less & he/she won’t give you less.
- How am I going to get through this? See above. This is your summary, you conclusion, your time to ponder what makes life beautiful and, YES, how you are going to have it all!
Go make your life incredible! Only you can. We hope this has helped your perspective and look forward to hearing your feedback.
I hope my experience and perspective helps. Hirsch